What to Do If Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant

Maybe you just heard the words: “I’m pregnant.” And suddenly, everything changed. You might be feeling shocked, confused, scared—or maybe all three at once. You’re not alone. This moment is big—but you don’t have to figure it all out by yourself.

If you’re wondering what to do now, take a breath. At Pregnancy Support Services (PSS), we’re here to help guys like you step into this new situation with confidence, support, and real answers.

Here’s Where You Can Start

1. Listen to Her and Stay Present

This news affects both of you—but first, she needs to know that you care. Listen without jumping to solutions. Just being present can be a huge source of support. Even if you're unsure of what you want, showing up matters.

2. Talk About It Together

This pregnancy involves both of you. Talking through your fears, goals, and questions can help you figure out what’s next—together. Whether you stay in the relationship long-term or not, how you show up now makes a lasting impact.

3. Get Support for Yourself, Too

You might be asking: What does this mean for my future? Can I afford a child? Am I ready to be a dad? These are big questions. That’s why PSS offers services specifically for men:

  • Coaching for Decision-Making
    Our Men's Services Director is here to listen and help you think through your priorities and concerns. You and your hopes and dreams matter. We will help you think through the possible paths ahead.

  • Mentoring for Dads
    Meet with a male mentor who can help you navigate fatherhood, relationships, and long-term goals.

  • Educational Resources
    Access Information on parenting, building healthy relationships, and financial preparation.

  • Community Referrals
    Need help finding a job, housing, or counseling? We’ll connect you to local resources in Durham and Chapel Hill.

This Doesn’t Have to Derail Your Life

Yes, this moment is life-changing—but it can also be a turning point for the better. Choosing to be involved and to take responsibility doesn’t mean you have to be perfect. It means you’re willing to take the next right step.

We believe in your ability to be strong, compassionate, and present—not just for your partner, but for yourself, too. Need a place to talk it out? Talk to us about our men’s services at Pregnancy Support Services, serving Durham and Chapel Hill.